Environment - An Important Element Which Will Effect Success And What You Should Do

by: Linda Ding

Do you know that the environment you live in will have an important and significant effect on the result of your endeavour? Few people can describe the relationship between environment and success since they consider that they don't have direct relationship with each other. However, what I want to tell you is that environment do have fairly crucial effect on success. And that is what I want to discuss with you in this article.

Have you ever heard about a proverb says in China that he that lies down with dogs must rise up with flea?

When it comes to success, environment may not play a decisive role in it, nevertheless, it must be the most crucial element for success. People will be unconsciously influenced by the environment they live in and as a result, the performance of them will be largely influenced by environment as well.

If you don't believe it, I would like to give you several instances to support my opinion.

A friend of mine grew up in a family which was filled with warm and love, as a consequence, she became a fairly moderate, kind and enthusiastic person now. Another friend of mine grew up in a family which was filled with violence and quarrel. As a result, he became rather pessimistic and sensitive in temper, he is easy to become angry without consciousness.

You see, the power of environment is rather huge, it can even destroy an individual's self-control. I mean, if your self-control is much weaker than the power of environment around you, you will be easy to be effected by the surroundings. That is to say, you will be controlled by the environment.

Therefore, if you want to get wealth and success, you should be more cautious when you choose friends. People who have optimistic state of minds and have specific goals to fight for can be your first selection. In addition, people who are kind, nice, enthusiastic and have a strong ability of performance can be your alternation as well. Besides, those who have creative minds and will be glad to help others could be your friends too.

In addition to choose friends, the environment you live in is significant, too. When you want to alter a job, try your best to choose a company which has nice atmosphere, I mean, the enterprise you will work in should have favourable spirit of teamwork and be honest and be just enough so that you can give your full play to your work.

Pay special attention to the power of environment, then. Since it really can affect your future to a large extent. Trust me and be cautious. You will succeed finally.

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Correct Choice Is The Key Of Success

by: Linda Ding

There are only two matters which you can not select during your lifetime. One is your parents and your children, the other is survival or death.

What we have now, which contain love, career, right, wealth, poverty, hunger, etc, are all originated from the original selections we made. As a result, choice is the most important part in a person's life. You will have the corresponding results in terms of what choices you will make.

When you have to confront making some choices, do keep in mind to think them over seriously, carefully and cautiously. Otherwise, you may get opposite answers.

A lot of people are confused about a question. They do things fairly seriously and enthusiastically, why can't they get a nice outcome?They never consider if their selections are right in the first place.

In fact, choice is more significant than endeavour if you want to succeed. However, choice is something fairly terrible and difficult as well. We will have a feeling of hesitation, frustration, tension, and so on when we have to make some big decisions. You should be brave enough to conquer those negative minds and grasp the opportunities in time. Since you won't get another chance like that if you miss it.

There are a majority of people who do things only follow the general trend and don't have their own creative opinions. The outcome of this is that they can't make any achievement through their life.

A scientist named John in France once made an experiment called "experiment of caterpillar". He put some caterpillars on the side of a planet and made them stand in a round. Then, he put some food six meters away from the flowerpot. To his surprise, all of those caterpillars just walked round and round toward the side of the flowerpot day and night without rest. But none of them chose to walked toward the outside of the queue so that it could eat the food.

From this small story, I want to tell you that some of you are just like those caterpillars. You are busy with something day and night. And when others ask you what are you engaged in, you just say that you don't know what you are occupied with.

Choices really matter when you want to succeed.As a result,if you are eager to achieve your goals and gain wealth and success, just stay away from stereotype and be creative and imaginative enough. Do something different and newfangled.Taking some adventures may assist you discover some unexpected harvests.

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Grounding - The Simplest And Most Powerful Grounding Exercise

by: Bella Romero

In this article I will reveal a simple yet powerful grounding exercise. But why would you need a grounding exercise? Because it will help you get connected with your center. Your center is that thing you need in difficult times. Your center will be there to help you overcome any problem that arises. You must not lose your center. Instead, you must stay connected with it at all times. The grounding exercise I am revealing here will create a deep connection with your inner self and your center. Let's begin..

If you don't succeed in performing the exercise well then don't be disappointed. These things take time. Keep trying and give time to yourself.

You will also need a notebook to take notes. This will help you perform the grounding exercise better and clearly understand the process.

Finally, you will need consistency. You must repeat the exercise for at least 10 minutes a day. If you meet these simple yet important requirements then you are ready to perform the exercise. Here it is..

Go to your private space and sit in a comfortable position (you can try the common cross-legged posture) and put some soft music on.

Now you will need all your visualization skills. First you must see yourself in the center of a flower. The flower is colorful, lovely and open. It's petals lay around you. Now see the petals rise one by one. Imagine pure light coming from an outside source and filling the space, you, the petals, the whole flower. Now see yourself being one with the flower (you are the bud) and sinking into the blossom. The flower is now closed. Feel the peace around you. Think what you have just created and feel happy and one with your center. Try to feel your heart beating. Determine the beating pace. Stay there for a while, these moments are precious. This is the first and most important part of the exercise! Very simple but powerful..

One issue that will likely arise is the presence of random thoughts that will try to distract you. Don't get discouraged and keep clearing your mind until you think nothing but your center or the images of the flower and you becoming one with it.

When you are ready see the blossom unfold slowly. All its petals are opening one by one until you find yourself in the center of the blossom again..

Before you finish, remember to take some notes of your thoughts and feelings that you believe are worth mentioning. At times it would be useful to look at your notebook to recall the feelings of the past and observe your progress.

The exercise presented will work even for amateurs but the more you perform it, the better the results and the level of understanding of what is going on around you.

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Famous Bruce Lee Quotes To Motivate You To Succeed

by: Michael Lee

Bruce Lee was one of the greatest martial artists of all time, but you’d be surprised at how some of the most famous Bruce Lee quotes have more to do with achieving success than they have with martial arts itself!

In fact, many speakers (especially his diehard fans) have a habit of quoting this famous martial artist time and again. Be inspired by these famous motivational quotes from a legend!

Bruce Lee Quote # 1: “Notice that stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.”

If you want to succeed in life, you need to be more like the bamboo or the willow. Be open-minded and embrace change. By refusing to be flexible, you are most definitely shunning away any room for growth.

Say your company has been taken over by a new management with new policies. Are you really going to raise hell over the change just because you refuse to adapt; or do you want to keep your job? Don’t let your stubbornness get in the way.

Bruce Lee Quote # 2: “Simplicity is the key to brilliance.”

This particular statement has been proven true time and time again. Even Leonardo da Vinci said that “the simplest explanation is most likely the correct one.”

Sometimes, we over think our problems and as a result, fail to see that the solution is right in front of us. Don’t fall into the same trap that a lot of people do. Get your head out of the gutter and adopt a simple perspective.

Bruce Lee Quote # 3: “As you think, so shall you become.”

There is something very serene and meditative about this famous inspirational quote, isn’t there? Whenever I feel disappointed with myself, I repeat this mantra quietly over and over again while focusing on what I want to be like.

I close my eyes and imagine myself to be successful and confident at work. In just five minutes, I feel loads better already. This is the power of positive thinking. It’s as if Bruce Lee himself spoke to me and gave me that piece of advice!

These famous Bruce Lee quotes are quite motivating, aren’t they? They have definitely helped me get through a lot of obstacles in my life. Whether at home or at work, these quotes have definitely changed the way I see things. I hope they do the same for you.

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Take The Time To CARE

by: Julie Donley

When I started my career in health care nearly 20 years ago, I was struck by the compassion and care with which nurses and other professionals gave of themselves to their patients. It felt like home to me as I embarked upon my career as a caring professional.

But I also noticed how unhappy and stressed people were. I noticed that people who CARE often do not show that same level of compassion to themselves or to coworkers. In nursing, especially, there was an “eat their young” mentality.

Although today that mentality is changing, it is still a problem. Abuse and lateral violence continues. There is too much fear and not enough compassion, empathy, or love and respect for self and others. We CARE, but that care is not focused on ourselves.

Healthcare is not the only place where lateral violence exists. From corporate America to the small family business, there are mean, nasty behaviors that take place on a regular basis meant to humiliate and beat people down. These behaviors can often also be experienced at home.

It’s time to change that.

It’s time for us to “Take the Time to C.A.R.E. ©” about ourselves and each other – to change how we operate. “Take the Time” simply means that we need to take a step back and stop reacting the way we have done in the past. At that moment when you realize there is a choice as to how to approach a situation or person, you stop and take the time to consider new options – to CARE – using the “C.A.R.E.” model below.

This model reflects our extraordinary capacity for compassion while integrating our need as human beings to be treated with respect and loving-kindness. Using this model every day, we can develop healthy work environments – and home environments – that nurture the best in ourselves and each other. Take a moment to consider the acronym C.A.R.E. in order to improve your relationships – with others and with yourself.

Communicate Clearly. Be direct in your communications. Use the acronym V.E.R.B.:

Vision – express clearly your vision for the department, the shift, your family, your romantic relationship, etc.

Expectations – people need clear expectations for behavior and for the delivery of their work. Without expectations, people do whatever they think they should, which may or may not be acceptable.

Requests – make direct requests for what you need. Teach people to treat you the way you want to be treated.

Boundaries – express boundaries by telling people clearly what is unacceptable to you. Teach people to stop doing things that feel bad.

Don’t assume that people know how to treat you. They don’t. And they communicate this to you by their behavior. People want to be great – they just don’t know how. By communicating clearly and directly, you teach them.

Appreciate Self and Others. Compliment and praise people freely and sincerely. Look for the good in others and tell them at every opportunity how wonderful they are and how much they mean to you. By looking for the good, you are less likely to judge and put down others. People want to please, so when you offer sincere praise, they will want to repeat the behavior. People are generally not accustomed to hearing positive feedback so make sure your message is heard.

Respect Differences. Each of us comes from different backgrounds, has different education and brings different perspectives. Be open to exploring possibilities. When you insist on being right or on having things be your way, you are not giving others the opportunity to have their own viewpoints. You essentially take away the individual’s right to be themselves. Respect is the foundation for all relationships. Trust cannot grow without respect. We need trust to be able to work together to accomplish our goals in meeting patient needs.

Employ Empathy. Try to understand where the person is coming from. This may be difficult especially during a conflict, but when you respect that not everyone had the same upbringing or value infrastructure, you realize that people behave badly often, not because they are bad people, but because:

They have poor self-esteem and do not feel good about themselves. If they did, they would never do anything to disrespect another human being.

They don’t know how to behave differently. This is what they know.

They are scared. Their poor behavior is a front.

They have no idea how their behavior impacts others. Most people don’t.

By learning to CARE for yourself and others using Communication, Appreciation, Respect and Empathy, the landscape changes. People start behaving differently in a caring environment. When people feel safe, they bring down their walls which hide the best of them; they are more productive and cooperative. And through your example, they learn to CARE too and like a virus, it spreads to create productive, enjoyable relationships that nurture the best of people – including you.

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Are You Afraid Of Accepting More Good?

by: Linda-Ann Stewart

Many years ago, I participated in an exercise at a workshop to show us how at ease we were with allowing good into our lives. As I imagined a little extra good flowing in, I was fine. But when I visualized a lot more good, I started to get anxious, even scared.

The exercise continued, expanding the amount of good I would let in. When I got past that first barrier, I was once again comfortable with the concept of letting more good into my life. It was an interesting exercise for me, showing, that for some reason, I was fearful of allowing more Universal good flow into me.

Why would anyone be afraid of more good? Imagine heaven smiling down upon you, living in grace, everything falling into place in your life. Why would that create anxiety? Isn't that exactly what you want?

Since the time of the exercise, I've discovered that many people share the fear I experienced. It comes in various shapes and forms, and from multiple causes. And it's one reason you unconsciously block your desires. Because of past experiences, you don't know what catastrophe will happen if you actually achieve what you say you want in life.

Over the years, I've identified a few reasons for that concern:

Fear of a backlash. If you receive more good, you fear that somehow it will be taken away. It's almost a superstition that one hand will give the good, and another hand will take it away. Sometimes, this comes from childhood. You might have received something you really wanted, but then had a cherished toy taken from you because your parent decided that you'd outgrown it.

Have to give it away. I've known several people who deliberately kept their income at a low level so they wouldn't have to give their extra money to indigent relatives. They couldn't say "No" to the relatives, and save the extra for a rainy day in their own life. From a young age, they were trained that they had to give all their extra toys and cherished possessions to their siblings or cousins. They were the "Cinderella" of the family, and haven't realized that things can be different now.

Fear of punishment. Somehow, you fear that more good will bring some punishment upon you. Some force will come down and make you pay for having something great happen. You're receiving more good than you deserve and should be flogged for it. The only thing that punishes you is your old programming. You deserve all the good you receive.

This is one of the issues I discovered I had. I once had a childhood friend who would put me down whenever I had something nice happen in my life. She once told me that she wanted to make sure I didn't exaggerate my importance. So I stopped telling her of any positives that occurred.

To begin to overcome this irrational fear that more good is scary, examine what happened when you were a child. When you got some toy or reward that others didn't get, how did you feel? What happened? Did you get beat up, was it taken away, were you emotionally abandoned, resented or attacked? Maybe you always had to share, and when you got the toy back, it was damaged or destroyed.

Whatever happened to you, it set up a pattern in your subconscious to expect this type of reaction every time you received something good in your life. And it probably continues to this day. To begin to combat that programming, remind yourself that you're the grownup now, and you have the power to say "Yes" or "No" or "Take a hike." And that you have the strength, ability, knowledge and resources to take care of your own inner self and worth.

I still practice the workshop exercise occasionally. It gives me feedback as to where I might be blocking myself, and to expand my acceptance of more good. When I feel the fear, I talk to it, letting it know that it doesn't have to protect me anymore. You can do the same thing, and allow yourself to open your mind to receive more good every day.

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Network With Ease

by: Glenise Anderson

Networking is very important in our daily lives. Often the best jobs and opportunities are not advertised but filled by word of mouth. With this in mind, a good idea is to go and find them yourself. How is this done, do I hear you ask? By the simple process of networking.

A number of people feel networking is waste of time and it has no effect on personal relationships or being successful in your business. This concept is completely incorrect. Relationships and business have been built via the networking process for hundreds of years.

Networking is not about meeting hundreds of people, interacting with them with them and then never meeting them again. It’s but about getting to know each other and finding out if you are able to make the relationship mutually beneficial for both of you. If you aren’t able to – then see if you can introduce them to someone more compatible to their business.

A simple example of how easy networking can be is the example of a woman who used to love writing articles. One day she decided to donate one of her articles to the local newspaper so it could be published and people around the world could have the chance to read it. The article focused on an event, which was coming up and was hosted by a woman’s publishing group. The group not only liked the article, they appreciated what she had done, so they recommended her to a national magazine. So now, not only does she get to write regular articles, she also gets paid for it. This example shows how networking can be done easily, if well thought out. Touching base with a few people can in fact lead to reaching many.

By referring your friends or relatives whom you think are well suited for a job is another way to network. I heard a story of someone recommending a friend for a teaching position with a nonprofit organization. Interestingly enough after getting the position, he returned the favor by referring his friend into a job he had heard about. Funny how things work out!

Family and friends are the easiest and best way to increase your network among colleagues and friends. There are many industries that work on filling positions this way and some even pay commission.

When looking for a new job, it may be worth joining a networking group focusing on the sector of business you are interested in. It’s a great way to meet people, do research into companies by asking questions of those people who work there. Often the opportunity may just be within that particular networking group.

The examples above show that in order to network effectively and in an efficient manner, you do not need to be outgoing or know a lot of people. All it requires is being creative, listen well, ask relevant questions and develop a good reputation with others. You would be amazed at how many doors will open for you.

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Six Ways to Make Memorizing Poetry Easier

 by: Kevin P. Green

The best way to experience poetry is to hear it out loud. While some poems are made to be read, for many you cannot get their full effect without hearing the spoken word. Epic poems were used since ancient times to tell stories and teach lessons, a task which has been replaced by books, movies, television, and the Internet. There is still a place for poetry, however.

Whether it’s in competitions, or just to entertain, reciting poetry can be a wonderful and fulfilling experience. Having children recite poetry that they have memorized can be a fantastic exercise on many levels. It can help with remembering details. It can be instructive in proper preparation and organization. Finally, it can teach valuable performance skills.

Memorizing poetry can be a challenge for some people, though. Here are some simple ways to make memorizing a poem a snap.

Start with a short poem. Don’t be tempted to bite off more than you can chew. Committing a short poem to memory will give confidence that will come through on stage and at the next study session.

Pick a poem that is interesting to you. It’s always much harder to study something that you could care less about. The more that the words or the poet mean to you, the more invested you will be in the process and the easier the poem will be to memorize.

Read the poem over and over again. Try to grasp the meaning of the poem, and don’t just try to remember the words without any context. It can take dozens of times to reread the poem before you grasp its deeper meaning. Write down how the poem makes you feel. In other words, try to understand the poem, before you memorize it. It will make an enormous difference both in studying, and in performing.

Take a break from time to time. Give yourself a chance to rest and your brain the opportunity to absorb the material. Sometimes pushing harder and longer will only result in frustration. Stop intermittently, walk around, and give your conscious mind something else to occupy it for a little while. Better yet, take a nap. Studies show that we tend to learn better when the material is reviewed prior to sleep.

Make sure that you remain relaxed while you study. Don’t think about deadlines, expectations, or performance anxiety. We know that stress has a negative effect on the brain, and specifically on memory. Clear your mind of extraneous thoughts. Sometimes yoga and meditation can help with this. For other people, though, just listening to soothing music can do the trick.

Try to make your study environment conducive to focus and productivity. It’s no good to try to memorize a poem in a busy room with lots of distraction. Do what you need to filter out the background noise and remain set on your objective.

Take this advice to heart and you’ll be pleasantly surprised with the results. Getting up in front of others to read poetry will be a fun experience, and you’ll leave your audience awed and inspired.

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Positive Networking

 by: Glenise Anderson

Networking is skill which is extremely important in order to make contact with different people. Not only is networking required within the workplace, it is also required outside in various other situations. For a woman to have positive networking skills is very important. Not only is a woman usually in charge of the socializing of her family, she is also sometimes responsible for gathering more clientele for the business she works in. If she has her own business, networking becomes a mandatory skill. For all these circumstances, positive networking skills are extremely important.

Some people just meet others in order to add as many names in their database and hence disregard quality and give more importance to quantity instead. When networking is used incorrectly and for quantity purposes only, it is known as networking abuse or when it comes to emails may be regarded as ‘spam’. As a woman entrepreneur, you must avoid this where possible – as your name is your business.

In order for networking to be positive, women must develop a well thought out network game plan. Focus initially on getting to know the people who you meet, make a decision about whether they are a match with your business and if they aren’t move on. Always be polite, however, don’t go to networking events expecting to hand out many cards – work on quality and not quantity and your business will reflect this decision.

In order to develop positive networking skills, there are some tactics which you can follow. Seven of these tips are mentioned below:

1. Always smile: A smile shows a person is warm and friendly. When meeting new people, smiling is welcoming and appropriate.

2. Look at people in their eye: When talking to someone, look them in the eye while you speak. This is seen as a compliment and is the best way to interact with someone new and whom you have just met.

3. Listen to the other person speaks: When having a conversation, it is polite to listen to what the other person has to say. This shows interest and if the person with whom you are conversing is likely to be someone whom you can deal with in the future, active listening skills will help immensely.

4. Have appropriate body language: Whatever impression new contacts will have of you the first time you meet is bound to be the lasting impression. In order for them to remember you in a positive way, have good body language and be relaxed and friendly.

5. Do not be pushy: No one likes a person who behaves strongly or acts in a needy manner. Hold your head up high and do not be afraid to show people who you are and what you believe in. but remember not to go arrogant.

6. Give a compliment: Everyone likes to receive a compliment. Ensure it is heartfelt and truthful. Most people can judge if a compliment is genuine or not, so be careful about what you say.

7. Have a business card ready: You never know when these may come in handy!

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Bobproctorsuccess: Exercise Your Mind With The Success Series

by: Mandal Rathin

Most people would agree that the "essential" business success strategies are a combination of goal setting, a positive attitude, proper motivation, teamwork, high ideals, and hard, no, SMART work. In evaluating success strategies it seems to me that I have missed probably one of the more difficult ones: RISK. In business dealings, in relationships, in just about every aspect of our lives that we deem important, there's always an element of risk.The stakes may seem high if we fail, BUT calculated risk multiplies geometrically the rewards when

we succeed. We all must stand for and believe in something. We must believe in our higher Self. Trust in the good and the positive. Because the odds are in their favor. Just as life is in your favor. Ask to win, Plan to win, Trust to win! Where Are Those Goals? Are you doing everything you set out to do earlier in the year? There's still plenty of time to reach your goals. Goals? You did set goals, didn't you? Without goals we have no way of measuring or gagging our productivity. Look through the stack of paperwork on your desk and check your briefcase, your goals must be there somewhere. What, you didn't write them down? Without a clear, precise game plan, without a desired outcome in writing, our destination is obscured. How can you hit a target if you cannot see it? We need to review our goals everyday to stay focused. The life stories of great men and women are testimonies to overcoming great obstacles on the road to success.There may be "failures" on the road to your own personal success. But with clearly defined written goals you can overcome these obstacles and turn them into stepping stones for success. Let's Do It Now!

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"If I'm Perfect, No One Will Reject Me" - Healing Perfectionism

by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Do you believe that being "perfect" gives you control over how people feel about you?"

If you do, then you are coming from 3 big false beliefs that are causing you much unhappiness.

FALSE BELIEF #1

"I can have control over how people feel about me."

Think for a moment whether or not others have control over how you feel about them. Can someone do everything "right" and be "perfect" in their own eyes, yet you don't enjoy being around them or you don't feel connected with them?

Of course!

Others may influence how you feel about them, but they have no control over how you feel about them. If you are a basically accepting person, then you might like them even if they get angry or withdrawn. If you are generally a judgmental person, then there may be little they can do for you to like them.

Now turn this around regarding how others feel about you. Since you have no control over whether or not another person is accepting or judgmental, it stands to reason that you also have no control over how they feel about you, regardless of how perfectly loving, open, caring, giving, understanding, handsome, beautiful, or rich you are.

FALSE BELIEF #2

"There is a standard of perfectionism and I can reach it."

I grew up believing that there was a "right" and "perfect" way to be. Then I learned that what I thought was right and perfect was not necessarily what others thought was right and perfect. In fact, it seemed that each person had a completely different understanding of what it means to be perfect!

This was quite distressing to me, as it took away my illusion of control over how people felt about me. At that time many years ago, I was terrified of rejection, so it gave me great comfort to believe that if only I was perfect enough, then I would never be rejected. Without a standard of perfection, what would be my guiding light to feel safe?

FALSE BELIEF #3

"I am basically flawed and need to strive to cover up my flaws and appear to be better than I am."

As long as I believed that I was basically flawed in some way, I was afraid of rejection. When I learned how to connect with my spiritual Guidance and see myself through the eyes of truth rather than through the eyes of my parents and others, I was able to see that my soul essence - my core Self - is already perfect, a perfect individualized expression of the Divine.

What was flawed were my beliefs that were programmed into me and needed to be healed.

HEALING PERFECTIONISM

Imagine how life would be for you if you knew that you were already perfectly wonderful and incredible just the way you are in your true Self? What if you could separate out the flawed, wounded, programmed part of you - the part you created to help you survive pain - from the magnificent part of you that God created. What if you could see that your ego wounded self - with all your fears and protections and ways of trying to have control over getting love and avoiding pain - is NOT who you are.

Then, instead of perfectionism being your guiding light, being fully and passionately yourself becomes your guiding light!

I assure you, this is a MUCH easier way to live!

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Managing Pressure for Work-Life Balance

 by: Glenise Anderson

Women have to face all types of pressures in life. Whether these pressures are related to the family life or work, they need to be dealt with and managed in the appropriate way. There needs to be a balance between these two aspects of life and here’s some tips on how every woman can manage the stress of her life and keep the two aspects in a balanced state.

1. If you don’t like what you are doing and are unable to find time for your family with the current career, try looking for a role which is more suitable to you and which allows you to take time out for your family. Look for a career which is less stressful and less time consuming. Searching for a new job may take some of your time but the end results are bound to be fruitful.

2. If changing your career is too drastic a change, you may be able to change the role you are in with another with your current employer. Look for positions which do not have the same amount of stress as your current job.

3. Even if you have a hectic schedule, it is important you take time out to do the things you enjoy. Schedule time for yourself and with the family. Spend some quality time with people whose company you enjoy.

4. If your workload at home is too great, share it with the other family members. Trying to manage all the work at home while managing the workload of the office as well is putting you in a very unhealthy position. Sharing the responsibilities of the home will not only reduce the workload you have, it will also encourage others to take responsibility for their own lives.

5. Even with the rest of the family pitching in to the housework, if you feel it is not enough then seek some outside help. You could find a babysitter or nanny to take care of your children or you could ask grandparents to look after them during the day while you are at work. It is important that you take the time to find appropriate alternatives.

6. Don’t stress the small stuff. There’s too many other things to think about to get caught up with the little things that happen that really don’t matter. Don’t stress on the things which are not so important.

7. Learn to manage your time. Say no where appropriate and you can then focus on the tasks which have higher priorities. Maintaining a balance between your personal life and your work life will ensure your happiness and success.

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Seven Key Motives for Learning Spiritual Counseling

by: Jane Mountrose

Do you want to move in a new direction? Do you long to assist people in a deeply meaningful way and do work that is truly special? You may be drawn to spiritual counseling and questioning whether this is the life work that you have been seeking.

Definition of Spiritual Counseling

Let’s take first things first. There are different ideas of the role of a Spiritual Counselor. In this article, we are discussing a special form of counseling that focuses on helping men and women to bring an awareness of the spiritual realms into their every day reality. This approach transcends the concepts of a single religion into the deeper wisdom teachings that unite all of humanity’s major religious and philosophical traditions.

There is a spiritual source that connects us all, which is the genuine source of spiritual strength and awareness. Through the study of quantum physics, science has now found this to be a fact. Spiritual Counseling offers the possibility to assist people to connect with the vast realms of spirit and make miracles happen in their daily lives.

Explore these purposes for becoming a Spiritual Counselor and ask yourself if any of these sound like you.

The Seven Motives

1. You enjoy life and love people. You experience the greatest joy when you can be with people. You appreciate having opportunities to share with them and uplift them.

2. You enjoy providing teaching. You always want to learn more and value growth. You treasure sharing information and assisting others in exploring transformational solutions to their challenges.

3. You seek deeper expression. You are self-inspired and long to do something that is spiritually rewarding to you. You are determined to transcend the ordinary and create an extraordinary life.

4. You feel a calling. You are excited and passionate about life. You know that everything happens for a reason. You want to be fully alive, and feel drawn to uplift people.

5. You are aware of the continuous presence of Spirit. You want to assist men and women to awaken to their deeper awareness, and create a strong connection with their higher awareness.

6. You can overcome limitations. You know you can help people to free themselves of barriers that block their progress so they can experience the joyful and fulfilling lives they deserve.

7. You understand infinite possibility. You want to help people to live fully and expand their awareness of chances for growth that they never imagined before.

If these thoughts excite you, the exciting news is that you are embarking on an extraordinary journey. Involvement in this profound spiritual work becomes more and more exciting as time passes. As your awareness increases, your ability to assist the people you serve becomes more and more profound.

Additional Insights about Spiritual Counseling

From a spiritual perspective, we are all here to evolve and live to the fullest. We are only limited by the way we view ourselves and our possibilities. We all have boundless opportunities that are ready to be realized.

At the highest level, spiritual counseling assists people to release perceived limitations and expand their awareness of their infinite potential. Think what being a part of this spiritual expansion can mean to you.

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Porn Addiction Help

by: Junaid Ali

Unlike any other addiction pornography is a secret addiction. And if your friends and family somehow come to know about this, it will be equally disappointing for you as well as them. And it has a long lasting negative effect on your attitude.

Anyone from a student to a white collar executive, they might be bachelors or married, some want to check on their addiction and some don’t want to get out of their addiction until its too late.

It needs professional help as well as strong will to stop porn addiction. It may take several years, and you might have to spend hundreds and thousands of dollars of fees and lots of prayer

Pornography addiction is in addict’s mind. Some people are consciously aware about the addiction while others don’t. For addicts, pornography is like a hobby to watch and read porn material. There might be many triggers that kick start the desire to get involve in porn ranging from lustful thoughts, feeling of loneliness, insecurity about sex, curiosity about sex, and everyone have their own reasons.

To overcome your addiction of porn you should involve in other activities that you love to do like music, dance, fitness, etc. Learn to utilize your time when you are feeling down, get involve in housework, or study, or exercise. You need to control your thoughts and divert them when you feel like watching or reading porn.

There are few things that you can do to stop pornography addiction:

• Throw away all the pornography out of your home

• Be God fearing and Pray for help

• Reward yourself with a monthly incentive to stay away from porn

• Also punish yourself by donating a good amount of money each time you involve in porn.

• Become more self-disciplined.

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Knowing Who You Are

by: Roseanna Leaton

The Movie "Eat Pray Love" is based upon an individual's search to find herself. A growing number of people spend much of their time wondering who they really are and what their real life purpose is meant to be.

We in general live a life of luxury. There is little real hardship in the way that we live in the Western world today. We have more money, more creature comforts and a greater ability to pursue myriad activities both near to home and far away. When you are being deprived of basic necessities in life your focus inevitably remains glued to the task of survival; one doesn't have time to luxuriate in ponderings about who you are or what your life's purpose is. Your purpose is simply focused upon staying alive.

And so the more comfort you have in your life the more time you inevitably have with which to focus your attention upon things of a more philosophical nature. Ironically the more we have the more dissatisfied we appear to become as we simply move our focus on to different things. When, I wonder, will we as a community finally appreciate what we have got and allow ourselves to enjoy a feeling of balance and satisfaction in our lives?

Julia Roberts, in this movie, sets out on a course to find herself which takes her to Rome, India and Bali over the course of a year. In Rome she learns to enjoy food for its taste and not worry about calories or weight gain. She also learns to make platonic friends and to live alone instead of constantly being in one relationship or another. She's not totally at one with this new experience, but she's apparently learning from it.

In India she learns to meditate and to further relax her thoughts, to a certain degree. She feels a little more centered but still knows that her journey is not complete. On she moves to Bali. Here she has to face a challenge; can she enter a close relationship without losing herself once more?

I'm sure that many people could empathize with several of the emotional tussles which were being expressed in this movie. Many people wonder who they are or what they should be doing. Many more wonder where their soul mate is and how they are ever going to find them. Some people shy away from relationships because they feel they will lose themselves if they were to commit; others throw themselves into one relationship after another and find themselves molding their habits and behaviors to whoever they are with.

All of these scenarios reflect a certain amount of emotional conflict, instability or insecurity. The quest to find oneself frequently takes people away from home, in search of peace and quiet and tranquility. The fact remains that you find this peace only when your mind becomes peaceful; this does not necessarily mean you have to go away so as to find peace.

Having said this, sometimes one finds it easier to totally change their environment so as to break old habits. The thing to remember though is that you generally have to go home at some point and still have to take the peace which you have found back home with you too. Otherwise you have not achieved any long term resolution to emotional turmoil or insecurities.

And when it comes to relationships, if you have really found your peace, and found yourself, you will not fear losing yourself. You will feel confident and secure in being one of two whole people who share a relationship as opposed to being one small fraction of a whole. Fears are only ever borne from your own chosen (although often unconsciously so) perception of a situation.

An alternative approach to finding yourself is to take time examining your thought processes and expectations in life and then focus upon ways in which you could think more powerfully and productively. To feel balanced and satisfied in life you have to learn to feel happy with yourself as you are, to stop comparing yourself to others and instead to feel confident being you.

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Invent And Innovate Yourself

by: Amy Twain

My friend is a speaker and she told me that so many years ago, when she was speaking for a group, the director started to ask her how she came about speaking on the topics or issues she did and how did she particularly define that. My friend replied that she had not really looked at something in particular.

My friend added that she was speaking and discussing in those topics that really moved her, intellectually, spiritually and emotionally and most especially on some topics of discussion which she believed will greatly help people. Then the director suddenly brought up the thought. “But why not invent or re-invent yourself, every so often?” my speaker friend was about to make a note, that she was doing fine as it pertains to monetary compensation and everything, but when the director in the audience all of a sudden brought up that idea to invent and re-inventing oneself, my friend also reflected.

The very word “invent” carries with it, the purpose or reason of a designed and desired result. That is where one should start, and then work backwards. My friend realized that though she had taken enough planning and thought on which direction or way she wanted her life and course to go, she actually never approached it from the angle of inventing herself, nor with the plan or intention of inventing.

The power of this approach is that how you live your life and more significantly, the kind of person you want or like to be is not left to fate, destiny, whims, current happenings or even circumstances. There are several people that do not live with end-purpose-intent/motive. They simply let their life, just freely move around or bounce from random choosing, however the boss might react, whatever will take place, to whatever feels good at that moment.

Okay, say for example you take an individual’s manner of dressing. Several on one side of society just take sit as it sees, accepts what’s given or simply remains and stays loyal to the way they dressed when they were in high school or college. While the other side especially the current pop culture and fashion, just lets whoever is the big name on Fashion Network determine the style and length of their pants, how they look or what type of design, color, cut etc.

So rather than letting all those other outside influences dictate your choices and designs, why not just “invent” the person you want to be in your clothes? It is incredible how much power, control and direction it can give you. Then try working in that desired direction. Think and decide if the clothing is appropriate for your work, your values, your family and friends.

Or much more importantly, the family you want to have in the future and the values you want to have. The person you want to be and the job you want to do. Always “invent” with the style and design of who you want to be and the life you always dream to have.

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Innovate A Current Niche To Improve Your Business

by: Amy Twain

If I am about to make an educated guess, I think I will find many professionals around the world who considered themselves “should have” experts or gurus. As in, “I should have done that.” As my friend Calyx, a Global Client Communicator Mentor told me, that he always hears this message form clients almost all the time.

Self employed professionals think and feel that they have to copy or imitate what their competitors are doing; they think that they have to be doing the similar thing. Well, after all, they need to keep up with the competition/race, right? Hmmm…not exactly. The standard answer to that is: Correct, the capacity to model your business after another business that already has a niche (a situation or activity specially suited for a person’s abilities or character) is your quickest pathway to income or success.

However, those clients of yours will still buy your services and patronize your products because of YOU! Your clients still need to know how your distinct skills and abilities will help in solving their problem. And take note—individuals who are specialized and highly unique are sought-after more often and get paid the most.

My friend Calyx never really tried to convince his clients to be all things all at once to most people—not at all. And your clients are not looking for a generalist. Come to think of it, it takes so much money and time to convey that marketing message across. Your clients are actually looking for an expert or simply a mentor who could give them desired results that they’re looking for or who could solve their problem fast.

Now let’s try to be more specific about an easy way to innovate a present niche. You can begin by making a list of some questions to ask (or remind) yourself everyday. You can write the answers to these questions in your diary, personal notes or journal or you can even think about them in your mind.

Anyway, the questions can be: 1.) What is it about my business I can innovate that could provide locally, which can also be easily done globally? 2.) What is my business doing right now, that my clients could be looking forward or benefit from over the next 3-5 years? 3.) In this line of work, what is it about that can be made more effective or can be improved? 4.) What is it about my competitors that I can be doing more profitably or more successfully? Jay Abraham once declared that, “all ideas or concepts are a new combination of old ideas, and that the only way to get ideas is to study and learn the basis and principles behind current happenings.” Now in this kind of economy we have, try not to spin your wheels making or creating a niche.

You would analyze, analyze and still do a lot of analysis while your prospects got their needs already met by your competitors. Instead, try working with a mentor who could assist you innovate a present niche and establish the true results you give and provide your local and global clientele as well.

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Got Time To Read More Books?

by: Amy Twain

Have you still got the time to read more books? Do they only gather a lot of dusts and cobwebs because you don't care to open them or you simply lack the time to read more books?

You have to accept the fact that you can pick the ones you like to keep on reading--and that you don't have to peruse everything. There may be plenty of classics and others which claims that some works are "must-read", but then again, you don't have to force yourself in try and reading more books if you can't even get past the tenth or at least the 5th page.

What matters most is that you choose to read more books you only want to read and not just you buy a book that everyone is talking about but then you can't even manage to get on with it!

Here are some tips in what to look for to really know what you want to get on reading:

1) Look for genres which truly interests you. There are several of them--romance, suspense, thrillers, psychological thrillers, horror, sci-fi, fantasy, etc.

2) Search for those written by authors you already know and enjoyed their works.

3) And those whom people highly recommend you try and at the same time, who like the similar books you enjoy. Of course, you have to understand that not all reading materials grab your attention right from the first page. Give yourself and the book enough time to sink in and be immersed in a subject matter or characters of the book. Don't rush and be in a hurry to grab a book if you got only a few minutes left to spare, or you have some important agenda to work on first.

Just the same with people, it takes awhile to get to know someone, like you give yourself ample time to get started with a book. But hey, once you're engrossed or get attached, you'll find it easy to continue reading.

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Why It Is Better To Simplify

 by: Amy Twain

Even in those times of frantic pacing and harried lifestyles, you know that you always have the choice to simplify and do less. It is the solution to almost every aspect of our lives.

To simplify is the answer to your financial difficulties: Shop less and spend less. Don't try to spend more than what you actually earn. Cut back on your bills and decrease your debt. Rather than trying to handle all your bills and expenses, try to simplify. If necessary, have fewer credit cards, of get rid of your credit card if you have to. Eliminate your financial problems so that you

will have lesser stress.

Got some time management problems? Try to do less and manage less on your agenda and you would get rid of the difficulty of trying to handle it all. Instead of figuring out how to deal with your packed schedule, strive to simplify. Decrease your commitments if you can't handle it. Decline some projects, meetings and some favors which will only eat most of your precious time.

If you want to end your storage problems, begin to simplify be minimizing clutter. When you have lesser things on your possessions, it means you need lesser storage. When this happens, life becomes less stressful. In the process, you will save a lot of money when it comes to maintenance and storage.

Indeed, it's not that easy to simplify especially if you're one of those who hoard most of your stuff but in the long run, will simply accumulate space which you need to store other important things.

Simplicity requires the courage to say no to commitments, to let go of your unnecessary stuff, and to be different than the way we always used to do things.

Consequently, you'll realize that it's all worth it--less hassles and stress and more efficiency.

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The Eyes Have It

 by: Wee Dilts

Learn the Power of Eye Contact

What is eye contact?

Several popular definitions are:

1. Eye contact is one of the most important nonverbal channels you have for communicating and connecting with others.

2. Defined as a meeting of the eyes between two people expresses meaningful nonverbal communication.

3. Contact that occurs when two people look directly at each other or when two people or animals look into each others eye at the same time.

4. It is the condition or action of looking another human or animal in the eye.

Linda Eve Diamond:

“The cheapest, most effective way to connect with people is to look them in the eye.”

What does eye contact do?

Eye contact can trigger:

Fighting

Smiling

Acknowledgment

Invitation

Understanding

Encouragement

Eye contact is two souls touching. Imagine, all the power your eyes hold.

Of all the ways we communicate, eye contact maybe the most powerful. The first step in establishing communication is eye contact.

Communication with pets and animals is with eye contact, and depending on the animal you maintain or avoid contact.

Did you ever look at a horse and know that your souls had communicated?

Have you ever looked at your dog and known that the two of you connected at a spiritual level?

My best friend and I can communicate volumes with just a glance.

So are the eyes a window to the soul? I’d say so.

What is the power of eye contact?

Ralph Waldo Emerson:

“An eye can threaten like a loaded gun, or it can insult like hissing or kicking or in its altered mood, be a beam of kindness. It can make the heart dance for joy.”

Words will probably never be found to communicate what actually transpires when you are communicating with another living creature through eye contact. Maybe it should it be “I” contact?

Besides touch, eye contact is the most powerful way of delivering personal cues.

Eye contact shows personal involvement and creates intimate bonds. Mutual gazing narrows physical gaps. It brings people closer.

The eyes play an indispensable role in effective communication and the building relationships.

The look of love; remember that look and the physical wham when wordlessly you knew you were attracted.

What can you say with the eyes?

Eye contact says to the other person:

I am interested in you

I respect you

I trust you

You have my attention

I value you

Then there is the avoidance of eye contact like the elevator stare. Fear of making eye contact with strangers and wild animals. Eye contact can be perceived as a challenge a precursor to aggression.

We probe each others eyes for mood signs like:

Trust can be developed almost immediately through eye contact.

Flirting a coy glance can be the beginning of all sorts of things

Bonding eye contact immediately brings two people closer

Feedback on how others are receiving you.

Winking says you and I know.

Our eyes are wonderful gifts. They help us express our feelings of:

Love

Acceptance

Hope

Warning

Fear

Anger

And much more, without a word.

Not maintaining eye contact in this country carries the connotation that the person is not trustworthy.

In other countries maintaining eye contact may be considered rude and disrespectful.

What does eye movement mean?

Eye contact gives you valuable clues as to what a person is thinking.

Kinesthetic people tend to look down

Visual people tend to look up

Auditory people tend to look sideways

People who look left to gather thoughts tend to be religious, artistic. They are most likely remembering.

People who look to the right tend to be scientific

People who look up and right may be constructing or making up an answer.

Eye contact can mean permission to speak or it can be a command; like when you say to someone “look at me when I’m talking to you.”

We’re demanding their attention; also, that they join us at a deeper level.

People who are autistic or have social anxiety problems experience trouble maintaining eye contact as do liars.

When might you want to make eye contact?

When you want to say hello without a word.

To exchange a warm greeting

In the store to brighten someone’s day

At dinner

In an interview

At a party

Playing a team sport

When might you want to avoid eye contact?

Walking down a dark alley

Face to face with a bear or other predatory animal

While driving

Ralph Waldo Emerson:

“On of the most wonderful things in nature is the glace of the eye; it transcends speech; it is the bodily symbol of identity.”

You can learn to maintain good eye contact. Practice doing it.

Make eye contact and smile at a stranger, can’t hurt.

Maintaining eye contact helps keep you focused on what the other person is saying; rather than thinking ahead to what you want to say.

In Western culture a shifty eyed person is judged badly; they are suspicious, up to no good.

Mahatma Gandhi:

“An eye for an eye and soon the whole world is blind.”

SUMMARY

Benjamin Franklin:

“Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, and half shut afterwards.”

In our society there is an increased need for interaction. Think of the joy you can spread by making eye contact and a smiling at the checker in the store, the wait person, or a passer by on the street.

It sends positive vibes. It is a sign of a confident person

Build self confidence . . . Practice eye contact

Copyright © Wee Dilts 2009

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Stress Relief Activities Can Improve Your Life

by: Edyta Kowalska

There are many of different stress relief activities that you can use like yoga, art and seeing nature, but these are only a few of the many available. You can get relief from stress by doing something that you enjoy whether it’s doing a spot of gardening or going for a run.

People think that the easy way out of stress is getting medication but why do that when you can try to solve your problem yourself? Simply try to take time out from your busy life and have some of that ‘you’ time where you can think about which direction your life Is going and, if you like it or not, you could always try a career change or make fresh start in life.

Also for stress relief activities it has been proven that lying on the sofa with your eyes shut not thinking of anything else but you, in a quiet relaxing place, can decrease your stress levels. For example imagine you having a picnic in the forest, in front of a cool lake, and you can smell the wild flowers and you can hear nothing but the birds singing! Then open your eyes and you should feel calm and relaxed.

Pop to your local gym and enquire about their yoga and meditation classes, try to go to one or both of these to channel your body in becoming relaxed. Soon you should feel stress free and happier with your life. The main thing when you are trying to de-stress yourself is to remember that healthy eating helps; keep away from sugary foods as these can leave you feeling agitated and lower your mood. Drink more water and eat more fruit and vegetables throughout the day as this will boost your confidence. You will soon learn which stress relief activities help you, and then you can make a daily routine to stick by.

To help with stress relief remember to get plenty of sleep; it is recommended that you to get eight to nine hours sleep to recharge your batteries for the following day to prepare you for anything that may be coming. If you find yourself in a stressful situation try taking five deep breaths right from the bottom of your stomach and breathe in through the nose and out through your mouth. This will decrease the stress building up.

Try to take all these tips onboard and before you know it you will be left feeling de-stressed, full of energy and you will be able to face anything that life throws at you. Any of these tips on stress relief activities will surely hel

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You Lead,I Follow - The Non-Leader

by: Personal Musings

A lot of focus has been placed on being a good leader. In fact, there is more literature about good leadership than any other management topic. This is because leadership covers not only management, but it involves teams, motivation and even our social lives.

But what of the people who consider themselves non-leaders?

If you are contented to follow, you are, by definition, a follower. Yet, the reality is that no one is a 100% follower. Everyone, bar none, will at one time or another be in a leadership position.

“Anyone knows a good restaurant around here?”

A timid hands goes up, and Timid Tim says, “I do. Follow me.”

No! That is not leadership! Yes, I can hear those protests loud and clear. Now, Timid Tim starts walking, turns a corner, goes down a flight of stairs, turns another corner all the while muttering to himself about how wonderful that restaurant is. Then, when he arrives, he is alone. Somewhere along the way, he manages to lose the entire group.

Sure, that is not LEADERSHIP, but even this simple example of leading a small group serves to show that at some point, you have to lead.

When speakers talk about leadership and how everyone should be trained and about how everyone is a leader, there are many scoffers. They think that this is all about selling more seminars. Or it is just hot air to encourage the “others” so they don’t feel too bad. Hardly.

In our many capacities, we are followers in some and leaders in others. It is inevitable. Have you ever followed someone with an IQ less than yours simply because he knew where the toilet was and you don’t?

Leadership skills are especially important at home. At work, there is always some one ready to step up to the plate. We all want to excel. Be promoted. Be noticed. One man’s faltering is another man’s elevator.

But at home, there is just you and your family. Think about that. The option for someone else to “step up to the plate” are not too plentiful in the home.

So, the next time you have a chance to attend a “leadership workshop” or a leadership seminar, don’t pass up the chance just because you think you are not a leader.

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Can You Get Codependency Treatment?

by: Kathryn J Lambert

When it comes to codependency treatment, there is no one-size-fits-all method. There's not magic pull that will aid you get over being codependent. There is no way around it, it will take hard work in order to overcome being a codependent. Codpendency treatment can be difficult and painful at times. There's no quick fix! The good news is that the steps   that you have to take are simple.

Once you are able to decide that you are codependent, you are probably questioning what codependency treatment options may be available. Codependency is a behavior that is learned and not one that is genetic or the result of a chemical imbalance. The best news is that you can learn new behaviors that will allow you to have healthier relationships in the future.

For many people, support groups are one of the best codependency treatment options available today. Groups like Codependents Anonymous are free and they offer support as well as a 12-step program. The main benefit to a support group is that you will be able to interact with other people who are in the same situation with you.

Choosing and reading quality books about getting past codependency is another great treatment option for many people. The leading codependency treatment book is most likely Codependent No More. You have to be willing to take the advice that you are offered in a book for it to work. If you do, you can really improve the way you relate to others.

Starting a journal is very helpful to many people as they work their way through recovering from their codependency. Starting a journal isn't the only thing you should do. You also need the assistance of a professional - in the form of a support group, counselor, or reading material. But writing your thoughts on paper is a great step as well.

If you can afford it, professional counseling is probably the best option for codependency treatment. A lot of people avoid counseling because they think that to go means they are somehow bad or broken, but that isn't the case at all. The truth is that counseling offers healing for many people. Talking to someone you can be open with and who can offer you practical advice on recovery can be the best thing you ever do.

Unfortunately, there's no easy way to overcome codependency. However, there are lots of options when it comes to codependency treatment and if you are serious about changing your habits when it comes to relationships, you'll find the help you need to do it!

What's next? Visit http://codependentrelationships.org/options-for-codependency-treatment/ for more information on getting help with your codependency.

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